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Releasing Grief and Moving Forward
by Karen Johnson
Copyright © 2013

In our life we will experience some ordinary and extraordinary losses. Be it material things, people or loved ones, even a job loss: we all have and will continue to experiences of loss and grieving. How we approach these losses, whether they feel insignificant or seemingly insurmountable, is key to our own development and evolution. Inside of us there is a piece that desperately wants to hold onto the energy of what was lost, but we know that it is rare to find it in the same form again.

Releasing this energy does not mean you will be abandoned by it, but that you are releasing it to allow it to take its new shape and form, and permit you to move forward in whatever way is appropriate in accordance with universal law.

We need to discover new ways of holding onto the energy produced by our loss, while yet releasing this same energy so it is not chained to you but stays with you and within you of its own accord and also moves in accordance with the universal laws that have been set out.

What we force or impose our will upon will not stay willingly with us. What we welcome and embrace and allow to take its own shape and form will stay freely.


Life may feel like it has lost its luster when we are viewing it through the depths of our grief and our own grieving process. We may feel extreme sadness, a loss of vitality or a lack of focus. It's important to understand that some of this is merely a momentary pause in life.

Sometimes, along with whatever emotions we may be feeling, come instances of great clarity, focus, determination and love. We must be willing to allow ourselves to balance out these two polarities (love versus loss). This will help us stand firm and strong through the winds of change which are about to sweep down and through our life: with any transformation, loss or grief can come monumental change.

It is almost as if the loss creates a vortex in which change will seep through whether we want it or not. If we step back, catch our breath and re-direct our focus from the emotions that the pain of this loss has created, we find that a space is opening up for transformational change to creep into our world.

It is unfortunate that we frequently need to lose something, sometimes something so dear to us, in order for this change and often rapid change to wrap itself around our lives in a positive way. Remember to befriend this change and not to be wary of it, for the more that you can welcome, embrace and step in tune with this change, the higher and the stronger the notes of harmony will surround your life.


There are many transformational vehicles that this loss or expression of grief can come in on. It is not always the size of the loss but actually how meaningful it is to you. A loss of a friend or someone you love brings with it many ripples into your life. For some, loss of position or job can greatly affect their security and their sense of who they are as an individual, and this in turn creates a huge sense of grief... anything from a loss of security, community, identity... Their sense of who they are in the world has now profoundly changed.

In going through the grieving process and journeying beyond the pain of that loss, it is key to find focus and meaning in moving forward. This can come in waves of emotions or feelings that must be experienced and released in whatever manner is right for the individual. Some can process it alone but for the vast majority there is a need to reach out to others to help you through this process, be it friends or loved ones or even professional caregivers.

The important piece is not to withdraw into an inner world where you end up recycling and reliving old scenarios over and over instead of allowing the energy to move through its natural course of waves, high and low, which allows the natural healing process to take place and assists you to begin opening up to what transpires next.

It is a very organic process not a linear one; and you must allow the process to run its gamut in however much time is needed. A love, forgiveness and acceptance element seem to be a predominant piece in this turn of events.


Can we actually gain from what is lost?

As you work through the pain there is much to garner. Grief opens a gate into a new world... and that's scary.

In the midst of our grief it is hard to fathom that there is anything to be gained from loss. That is quite untrue, with any loss comes many hidden jewels: some a little more abstract than others. Each time we learn a little more about ourselves and how we live, love and generally experience the world. Sometimes this knowledge is welcome and at others not, but it is always evocative and definitely insightful. You see, each time we get to peek a little deeper into our souls.

There is a time for endings. There is an expansive knowingness in recognizing endings as openings to new beginnings. We have great difficulty in knowing when and how to allow things to end... allowing new beginnings to flourish and grow.

We end where we begin.


This article was originally written by Karen Johnson for:
The Meta Arts Magazine, New York
© 2013 Karen Johnson, CHt. MHt All rights reserved in all media.


This article was originally written by Karen Johnson for:
The Meta Arts Magazine, New York
© 2013 Karen Johnson, Awakening Heart and Soul All rights reserved in all media.


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Karen Johnson is an Intuitive Consultant and Modern-day Shaman whose expertise in the field of Intuitive Intelligence and Human Potential Development an area where she has been a leader for the past decade. A well known Energy Medicine Practitioner, Master Hypnotherapist, Spiritual and Metaphysical Healer and Author. She also runs an international Intuition Consulting company: Awakening Heart and Soul consulting and mentoring for individuals and small businesses that are at a serious juncture in their lives.

She can be reached at 416.732.2661
115 Danforth Avenue, Suite 201 Toronto